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June 12, 2012

End Radio Silence

Sorry about the radio silence this last week. Life got a little too real over the course of the last week.

Bar review: Ok, now it’s overwhelming. Last week, I was able to stay on top of the outlining, but when you throw in the practice problems and memorization, it all became a little much. Every day is a new body of law, except for the Big 5: torts, property, contracts, civil procedure, and professional responsibility. The Big 5 get a massive two days of attention! I’ve done minimal work the last few days, and have recalibrated ┬ámy approach to the bar.

I’ve started setting specific goals for each day, including finishing an outline. I’ve set a goal of mastering the core elements of one body of law, finishing an outline, and doing at least one practice problem. This will ensure that I’m staying on top of what is coming up next, while also reviewing and working through the material I’ve already covered.

This was me last week.

Everything else: I’ve learned that it’s important to maintain my social network. I can’t just disappear. I learned this because I’m one of those people who tends to think about things, over and over, until I “figure it out”. The upside to this is that I typically have very good, deep analysis of whatever it is. The downside is that when I’m thinking about my own emotions, or situations I don’t like, well… And that’s what happened over the last week. It put me in a funk, which is not me. I wasn’t able to focus or concentrate on anything, was becoming very critical of everything around me (including my relationship), and was generally just backsliding into a negative space.

I need to make sure that I’m reaching out to people, talking to them, getting encouragement, but also staying involved. This was really helpful yesterday, because it is a large part of what drew me out of my funk. The Best Friend encouraged me to take a run, which I did. I felt better for it. I also learned that I can’t place all of the burden of supporting me on just one person. It’s natural to me to rely on The Fiancee for support, but she’s got her own problems to deal with now, so she’s less compassionate than she may otherwise be. Family and friends though, that’s where it’s at, let me tell you. Just a few text messages back and forth with The Sister, the Best Friend, and Mom really helped me see more clearly.

On the upside, I have a second job interview tomorrow. If I get the job, then I’ll switch out of the live bar review class, and into the online one. That way, I can study from about 7-2:30, then work from 3-8, then take a run and spend an hour or so reviewing. I’m pretty excited about the position, mostly for two reasons. First, it is way low-key. It is very laid back, and it doesn’t seem like it will be too stressful. Second, it will cover all of my bills and put me a few hundred ahead at the end of each month, despite only working 25 hrs/wk. The job will certainly allow me to keep working after I’ve taken the bar, which is good. I’d be able to pick up another PT job to make full-time wages, and then drop one in favor of some contract legal work once I get my bar results.

So that’s the last week. Now I understand why people say that studying for the bar will really do a number on you. It can, and will overwhelm you. The thing I’ve learned is that it’s important not to just do it on your own – everyone in your social network (including classmates) is someone who can help ease the burden. Just be sure to spread it around, so that no one person gets the brunt of it.